I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share - Health - NigeriaWelcome, Guest: Register / Login / With Google / Trending / Recent / New Stats: 3,279,931 members, 8,232,454 topics. Date: Tuesday, 12 August 2025 at 11:34 PM I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share - Health - Nairaland Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Health / I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share (6585 Views) See My HIV Test Result!! / My HIV Test Result - The Shock Of My Life / Sex With Prostitute: My HIV/AIDS Test And Result Experience (2) (3) (4) (1) (Reply) (Go Down) I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by RetroviralS(m): 6:17am Living with HIV is a silent struggle many do not understand. This is my story; raw, honest, and from the heart. I was diagnosed with HIV. My sister told me about her own diagnosis and that I probably got it from her. At first, I didn’t understand what it really meant, but I trusted my sister to take care of me and promised to keep it secret from our family. Taking my drugs every day was hard. I hated it as a child, its tiring and inconvenient but I kept going because my sister said maybe one day I would be cured. It was even harder because we come from a close family, and I couldn’t tell anyone else. I had very few friends because I always felt I had to hide. Things changed when I joined Teenage Zone, a support group for adolescents living with HIV. We were intimate on several occasions, and we did not always use protection. I was always haunted by this decision I made, and I felt guilty, but the thought of losing him scared me so much. To reduce the risk of my infecting him, I always made sure my viral count was low, but I knew that was not a guarantee. Finally, after four years together, I mustered up the courage to tell him. Unlike most young men, he took it in stride, and instead of running off on me, he sought to educate himself further by speaking with some doctors. hat singular act changed his perspective for the better regarding what it takes to be in an HIV discordant relationship and helped us forge an even closer bond. I know that I am one of the lucky ones. Most young girls living with HIV who disclose their status to their partners after such a long time often suffer severe consequences, including public shaming and acts of violence for the ‘deception’. The truth is that these young girls do not have the skills to negotiate safe sex with their partners, nor the support to help them through such difficult conversations. Many suffer in silence, afraid to speak out or ask for help. But I believe change is possible. By joining support groups like Teenage Zone, educating ourselves and others, and building strong, understanding relationships, young people living with HIV can find hope, strength, and love. My story is one of survival, courage, and the power of trust. I am a young mother now, living positively, and I want other girls to know that they are not alone and that life can still be beautiful. At Retroviral Solutions (RVS), we’re working to make sure people living with HIV get the care and support they deserve. No one should face this alone. If you or someone you know needs help, don’t hesitate to reach out. Story by AAmaka Haruna Shared with permission to raise awareness and inspire hope. Disclaimer: This is a personal story shared to raise awareness about living with HIV. Please respect the author’s experience and avoid stigmatizing comments. 2 Likes (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Melagros(m): 10:04pm COMRADES, you see this HIV/Aids of a thing, the, the way wei en dey scare me, you can't imagine it. Either with or without CD, I dey fear this sex before marriage well well Say no to RAW contact 6 Likes (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by PheelzAlmighty: 10:04pm Make una easy with the stories abeg . Nigerians dey para 2 Likes (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by yinchar(m): 10:05pm Take your meds and you will be fine 12 more characters needed (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Ciome5: 10:07pm It is very good to keep it secret but the most important thing is to take care of yourself how to prevent it from getting to another person (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Houseofglam7(f): 10:07pm 🥱 Ohh well… tales by the bonfire 🔥 It doesn’t mean scenarios like this don’t happen but this was just to advertise a support group I think. NEXT!!!!!! 8 Likes (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by andy244: 10:08pm Na waoo. People are passing tru a lot. One million more characters needed 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Trustme2(m): 10:09pm This is deep. It's not easy with stigmatization. But all the same life continues (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by GboyegaD(m): 10:09pm Glad you are taking your medications. Please do not relent. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Igbofirstfarmer: 10:09pm Odikwa risky, abeg make una complete the rest, 40 characters must karat (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Northernblood8(m): 10:10pm This one sounds like chatgpt story. Which one is "teenage group" Make una the Calm down (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Celestialsword: 10:11pm Melagros: COMRADES, you see this HIV/Aids of a thing, the, the way wei en dey scare me, you can't imagine it. Either with or without CD, I dey fear this sex before marriage well well Say no to RAW contact It's not only through sex you can contact it, There are other avenues to get it 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by EngrHumble(m): 10:12pm Glad you're taking Ur medications but the story nor complete. Educate us more on how it's all started. How Ur sis take get am? How she take transfer the HIV to U? 3 Likes (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by IJAYA001(m): 10:13pm Please how did you get it from your sister? To make it more inspirational. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Dogalmighty17: 10:15pm The world was on the cusp of eliminating HIV for good until Trump came. Outside the breakthrough of Lenacapavir, American scientists had finally figured out how to send targeted medication to the reservoirs of HIV hidden in the body. Places where drugs couldn't get to normally. There was excitement in the scientific community. It was short lived. Trump came and cancelled all funding for HIV research and programs meant to ensure HIV drugs get to communities that desperately need them. Lenacapavir is very expensive. This twice yearly injection costs roughly 28000 dollars. With funding for generics, the shots could come down to 50 dollars each. But Trump has stopped that. There's hope that similar breakthroughs can come from Europe. I strongly believe that the battle against HIV can be won and very soon. 5 Likes (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by bigdammyj: 10:16pm Living with HIV is a silent struggle many do not understand. This is my story; raw, honest, and from the heart. Noted. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by jojothaiv(m): 10:17pm Melagros: COMRADES, you see this HIV/Aids of a thing, the, the way wei en dey scare me, you can't imagine it. Either with or without CD, I dey fear this sex before marriage well well Say no to RAW contact It's a good thing that you're afraid of it but you and I know that unprotected sex isn't the only way to contact it. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Ontarioo: 10:20pm This your story reminds me of the era of CD disk player. You know how that thing would skip the best part of movie/music? You skipped through telling your story, now I'm wondering how to get the part you refused to write about. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by merits(m): 10:27pm Hmmm I am short of words God will continue to strengthen you. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by AdUlAM: 10:27pm andy244: Na waoo. People are passing tru a lot. One million more characters needed omo you nor get joy oo.. ur own na million remain abi (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Silentgroper(m): 10:40pm Ok .. she fvcked a nigga without informing him she's +ve... What if the drugs had failed or something .. .as trump don cut fundings of this drugs, looks beating ones meat would be the way to go .. I'd take premature ejaculation over HIV a billion times .. Since most people don't wanna be informing people they positive before humping on some JT.. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by cucumbar: 10:43pm RetroviralS: Living with HIV is a silent struggle many do not understand. This is my story; raw, honest, and from the heart. I was diagnosed with HIV. My sister told me about her own diagnosis and that I probably got it from her. At first, I didn’t understand what it really meant, but I trusted my sister to take care of me and promised to keep it secret from our family. Taking my drugs every day was hard. I hated it as a child, its tiring and inconvenient but I kept going because my sister said maybe one day I would be cured. It was even harder because we come from a close family, and I couldn’t tell anyone else. I had very few friends because I always felt I had to hide. Things changed when I joined Teenage Zone, a support group for adolescents living with HIV. We were intimate on several occasions, and we did not always use protection. I was always haunted by this decision I made, and I felt guilty, but the thought of losing him scared me so much. To reduce the risk of my infecting him, I always made sure my viral count was low, but I knew that was not a guarantee. Finally, after four years together, I mustered up the courage to tell him. Unlike most young men, he took it in stride, and instead of running off on me, he sought to educate himself further by speaking with some doctors. hat singular act changed his perspective for the better regarding what it takes to be in an HIV discordant relationship and helped us forge an even closer bond. I know that I am one of the lucky ones. Most young girls living with HIV who disclose their status to their partners after such a long time often suffer severe consequences, including public shaming and acts of violence for the ‘deception’. The truth is that these young girls do not have the skills to negotiate safe sex with their partners, nor the support to help them through such difficult conversations. Many suffer in silence, afraid to speak out or ask for help. But I believe change is possible. By joining support groups like Teenage Zone, educating ourselves and others, and building strong, understanding relationships, young people living with HIV can find hope, strength, and love. My story is one of survival, courage, and the power of trust. I am a young mother now, living positively, and I want other girls to know that they are not alone and that life can still be beautiful. At Retroviral Solutions (RVS), we’re working to make sure people living with HIV get the care and support they deserve. No one should face this alone. If you or someone you know needs help, don’t hesitate to reach out. Story by AAmaka Haruna Shared with permission to raise awareness and inspire hope. Disclaimer: This is a personal story shared to raise awareness about living with HIV. Please respect the author’s experience and avoid stigmatizing comments. Any story with pictures at the end on nairaland na lie . (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Eriokanmi: 10:48pm yinchar: Take your meds and you will be fine 12 more characters needed It's easier said. Your life won't remain the same again. I mentored a girl who later had a bf without me knowing. She had introduced sone which I kicked against but I understood, she wanted to settle down and without further delay. This guy came home from Philippines .He infected her without even disclosing his status and travelled back. They both grew up in same area before he travelled to live in Philippines. She always describes how harsh the drug is on her body and the way the virus had changed her life forever. Abstinence is the panacea. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Dogalmighty17: 10:49pm cucumbar: Any story with pictures at the end on nairaland na lie . Correct man. You know the Koko. Dem go just generate story for traffic. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by CorperKola: 10:56pm Thats even true Now is the worst time to Bleep around Damn !!! (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by zagorakis(m): 11:02pm Celestialsword: It's not only through sex you can contact it, There are other avenues to get it The majority of transmission nowadays is through sex. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by VladimirTheGrea: 11:09pm Seun abeg put this warning for this Tibubu government "please don't try this at home" English dey make some people play rough play. (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Iseoluwani: 11:11pm hmm i actually dont want to believe this story 1. the poster is a male and then he was intimate !! does it mean they were into ga.yship relationship, if not why does it its like a male to male relationship 2. Got it from ur sis??, i understand HIV can be transmitted in so many ways, but you said probably, which means u are intimate with your sis, cos this story no clear. when doing a write up, make it simple such that readers can relate to its reality RetroviralS (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by Iseoluwani: 11:22pm Ontarioo: This your story reminds me of the era of CD disk player. You know how that thing would skip the best part of movie/music? You skipped through telling your story, now I'm wondering how to get the part you refused to write about. same with me, did he sleep with his sister because i no understand , because which one is 'i probably got it from her' (Share⤴) Re: I Kept My HIV Secret For Years And Here Is The Truth I Have Been Afraid To Share by jaxxy(m): 11:26pm it might help to know how ur sister contacted it and even probably passed it in to u considering u were very young and a kid then. Sounds almost unbelievable. All thesame an insightful and touching story. (Share⤴)