Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage - Romance - NigeriaWelcome, Guest: Register / Login / With Google / Trending / Recent / New Stats: 3,279,932 members, 8,232,462 topics. Date: Wednesday, 13 August 2025 at 12:00 AM Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage - Romance - Nairaland Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage (3051 Views) Virginity Doesn't Guarantee Heaven - Daddy Freeze Says After Virgin Girl Bragged / 'Thank God For The Guy Who Disvirgined My Virginity Today' - Lady On Facebook / Is It Still Possible For Girls To Keep Their Virginity Till Their Wedding Night? (2) (3) (4) (1) (2) (3) (Reply) (Go Down) Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Truvelisback(m): 12:50pm On Aug 07 Good day, fellas. Virginity doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. Yes, it doesn't. You can marry a virgin lady and the marriage can still crash if she is ill-mannered and disrespectful and you can still marry a non virgin lady who is good mannered and respectful and still have a successful marriage. Having a virgin as a wife doesn't guarantee that she won't cheat on you and vice versa. The Character is the goal. I'm speaking from experience. My candid advice for men: Don't marry any lady who is loosed. Watch carefully. If you think marrying a virgin will guarantee you a successful marriage, then you must be a joker. I have met many brainless virgins. This is not to say that virginity isn't important but if a good character isn't attach to it, it is useless. 3 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by advanceDNA: 1:27pm On Aug 07 If u want a car previously used by 30 pple...go ahead.....if u can get a new one untouched ..go ahead .......But it's weird telling someone that a new & untouched car doesn't guarantee it will serve him well... It's funny how y'all focus on hypothetical scenarios of how virgins won't make good vvives or good marriages........but y'all never mention the fact that people with high bod¥count and reckless sexual lifestyle constitute the highest number of failed marriages out there........ Make una continue ...the society we encourage will come back and affect us 21 Likes 3 Shares (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Truvelisback(m): 2:01pm On Aug 07 advanceDNA: If u want a car previously used by 30 pple...go ahead.....if u can get a new one untouched ..go ahead .......But it's weird telling someone that a new & untouched car doesn't guarantee it will serve him well... It's funny how y'all focus on hypothetical scenarios of how virgins won't make good vvives or good marriages........but y'all never mention the fact that people with high bod¥count and reckless sexual lifestyle constitute the highest number of failed marriages out there........ Make una continue ...the society we encourage will come back and affect us You don't get my point. I'm not against marrying a virgin. My point is that, if the virgin has lots of flaws in her character, the marriage would collapse. If you want a virgin, ensure that both of you are compactable for marriage in terms of character. 10 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by EarthKing(m): 3:16pm On Aug 07 That's true. Not being a virgin won't either. Better to marry a virgin with flaws than a non virgin with plethora of flaws. 16 Likes 1 Share (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by advanceDNA: 3:20pm On Aug 07 Truvelisback: You don't get my point. I'm not against marrying a virgin. My point is that, if the virgin has lots of flaws in her character, the marriage would collapse. If you want a virgin, ensure that both of you are compactable for marriage in terms of character. I never said u r against marrying a virgin? I asked why are y'all always focused on virgins when trying to talk about lasting marriage when non virgins are the biggest contributors to f@iled marriages..... How come none of y'all say something like " big yænsh is not a guarantee, of fine face, or figure 8, knowing how to cook, is not a guarantee for good marriage ...but it's being always the virgin that most of the time requires some level of discipline that y'all use as a caution.... 8 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Olumaeme: 12:16am On Aug 10 If virginity dosent guarantee successful marriage na community project come guarantee? 9 Likes 1 Share (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Truvelisback(m): 9:00am On Aug 10 Olumaeme: If virginity dosent guarantee successful marriage na community project come guarantee? A community project is a loosed person. I talked about it in my post. (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Dzzzz: 9:29am On Aug 10 What is with you guys and virgins eh??..Virgin is the deal..You can go for the universal bore holes that’s your problem and not mine..The problem with most marriages today is not about virgin or not.its because most of you people don’t even know your wife before going for marriage..You date a girl for 6months and in marriage you can’t even last a year and you complaining.. 2 Likes 1 Share (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Dzzzz: 9:29am On Aug 10 Olumaeme: If virginity dosent guarantee successful marriage na community project come guarantee? No mind the Nkapi.. 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Dzzzz: 9:32am On Aug 10 Truvelisback: You don't get my point. I'm not against marrying a virgin. My point is that, if the virgin has lots of flaws in her character, the marriage would collapse. If you want a virgin, ensure that both of you are compactable for marriage in terms of character. I will marry an ill mannered virgin as you say it..I watched a post where a guy called a woman”side H*e* and today the woman is married with 3kids,it happened years ago and what do you think will happen if the husband gets to see it?? 5 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Truvelisback(m): 10:16am On Aug 10 Dzzzz: I will marry an ill mannered virgin as you say it..I watched a post where a guy called a woman”side H*e* and today the woman is married with 3kids,it happened years ago and what do you think will happen if the husband gets to see it?? It's your choice. However, it doesn't guarantee you a successful marriage. That's just the ugly truth. As for the husband, he may or may not do anything about it. A sensible husband won't judge based on what someone said about his wife. (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by zed7: 10:27am On Aug 10 This is no news, no guarantees anywhere. Same way being a pastor wouldn't guarantee you going to heaven and being a hardworking person, wouldn't guarantee you wealth. That is not to say people shouldn't strive to be the best version of themselves always. 4 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Truvelisback(m): 10:34am On Aug 10 zed7: This is no news, no guarantees anywhere. Same way being a pastor wouldn't guarantee you going to heaven and being a hardworking person, wouldn't guarantee you wealth. That is not to say people shouldn't strive to be the best version of themselves always. Exactly my point. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by compton11(m): 11:15am On Aug 10 But u will get peace of mind concerning previous body counts 2 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Onegai(f): 11:23am On Aug 10 Folks, gather here let me tell you a tale of 2 women, a virgin and not-a-virgin. Once upon a time (almost 17 years ago ), I had a family friend, who we will call Mike. Mike's mother and mine were best of friends to the point that they will call each other and spend hours gossiping on the phone. Mike's mum wanted our families to be joined permanently, so she started pushing me and Mike together. Then unfortunately, she passed away... We all grieved and Mike and I got close. He asked me out, but mentioned that his brother had met this young NYSC babe named...Crazy Igbo Chic (CIC for short) and had introduced them, they were in talking stage but long distance. They had never met in real life. He would call it off for me. Now, MIke was doing very well, young and had just bought his house (thanks to his job). And there has never lived an Igbo woman who sees money...errrr I mean a good man and leaves it alone. CIC (who had never met Mike in person proceeded to burst into tears on the phone and declared she had fallen in love with Mike after one month of chatting with him on the phone and NEVER meeting him in person. When Mike laughed at that absurdity, CIC dropped the ultimate bomb: "Mike, I am a Virgin! And I will give my virginity to you" Go on, laugh. But guess what? IT WORKED! Men arrogantly think they're very clever and immune to Manipulation. They boast that they're in charge, on top of the matter but meanwhile Manipulative women have spun a trap and the man is squirming inside. Flies don't realise the spider web is sticky till they're caught and it's too late. A humble man is one who fears the Lord and realises he doesn't know much. Mike, olodo like he was, was very arrogant (money gives you false pride and belief in your ability). Even though he liked me more, he wanted to eat Virgin puna. So he played us against each other, CIC played him and I withdraw from the race. CIC travelled to his location, promptly moved her "Virgin" puna into his house and started acting as wife. Just like a good, godly woman would do: cohabition and fornication Even from her pictures, you knew CIC was lying but you men are easy to manipulate sha. Mike's former classmates were laughing at him but nobody told him because they all thought he was an arrogant arse and deserved to be messed with. A year later, I had moved onto another relationship, Mike and CIC were apparently cooling off because relationships based on deceit no dey last. How did I know? One day, I got an anonymous email insulting me in vulgar language, about Mike. It was clearly CIC and she thought that Mike was about to break up with her and come back to me. Real good, godly woman behaviour there. I blocked her, told Mike's family (who, ashamed, had to save face and defend her actions because she was their son's babe) and moved on. CIC manipulated some more and I guess it worked, Mike married her. I later heard that Mike's sisters disliked CIC because she was so awful, which made my mum laugh. Because someone who started with so many red flags, you were all expecting her to be a Good person? C'mon nau... As for Mike, who knows if he's happy? But at least he got his "Virgin". And what advice will I give my sons? "My dear boys, any woman who tells you she is a virgin, assume she's trying to manipulate you. Because whilst her virginity is good and is a sign of discipline towards God, you have NO idea of knowing if she's lying and even if she's not, that doesn't negate her other flaws. So shine your eye". 5 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Dzzzz: 1:25pm On Aug 10 Truvelisback: It's your choice. However, it doesn't guarantee you a successful marriage. That's just the ugly truth. As for the husband, he may or may not do anything about it. A sensible husband won't judge based on what someone said about his wife. Until then. 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Truvelisback(m): 2:05pm On Aug 10 compton11: But u will get peace of mind concerning previous body counts No kukuma marry. If she isn't loosed, the marriage can still work. However, i do not undermine the importance of virginity. (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by compton11(m): 2:20pm On Aug 10 Truvelisback: No kukuma marry. If she isn't loosed, the marriage can still work. However, i do not undermine the importance of virginity. Just because he's former hoe doesn't mean she going be good wife too. Imagine hearing niggas talking about how they used to bang someone wife whorely and the husband they hear it 😭😭😭 (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Nonexisting1: 2:59pm On Aug 10 Onegai: Folks, gather here let me tell you a tale of 2 women, a virgin and not-a-virgin. Once upon a time (almost 17 years ago ), I had a family friend, who we will call Mike. Mike's mother and mine were best of friends to the point that they will call each other and spend hours gossiping on the phone. Mike's mum wanted our families to be joined permanently, so she started pushing me and Mike together. Then unfortunately, she passed away... We all grieved and Mike and I got close. He asked me out, but mentioned that his brother had met this young NYSC babe named...Crazy Igbo Chic (CIC for short) and had introduced them, they were in talking stage but long distance. They had never met in real life. He would call it off for me. Now, MIke was doing very well, young and had just bought his house (thanks to his job). And there has never lived an Igbo woman who sees money...errrr I mean a good man and leaves it alone. CIC (who had never met Mike in person proceeded to burst into tears on the phone and declared she had fallen in love with Mike after one month of chatting with him on the phone and NEVER meeting him in person. When Mike laughed at that absurdity, CIC dropped the ultimate bomb: "Mike, I am a Virgin! And I will give my virginity to you" Go on, laugh. But guess what? IT WORKED! Men arrogantly think they're very clever and immune to Manipulation. They boast that they're in charge, on top of the matter but meanwhile Manipulative women have spun a trap and the man is squirming inside. Flies don't realise the spider web is sticky till they're caught and it's too late. A humble man is one who fears the Lord and realises he doesn't know much. Mike, olodo like he was, was very arrogant (money gives you false pride and belief in your ability). Even though he liked me more, he wanted to eat Virgin puna. So he played us against each other, CIC played him and I withdraw from the race. CIC travelled to his location, promptly moved her "Virgin" puna into his house and started acting as wife. Just like a good, godly woman would do: cohabition and fornication Even from her pictures, you knew CIC was lying but you men are easy to manipulate sha. Mike's former classmates were laughing at him but nobody told him because they all thought he was an arrogant arse and deserved to be messed with. A year later, I had moved onto another relationship, Mike and CIC were apparently cooling off because relationships based on deceit no dey last. How did I know? One day, I got an anonymous email insulting me in vulgar language, about Mike. It was clearly CIC and she thought that Mike was about to break up with her and come back to me. Real good, godly woman behaviour there. I blocked her, told Mike's family (who, ashamed, had to save face and defend her actions because she was their son's babe) and moved on. CIC manipulated some more and I guess it worked, Mike married her. I later heard that Mike's sisters disliked CIC because she was so awful, which made my mum laugh. Because someone who started with so many red flags, you were all expecting her to be a Good person? C'mon nau... As for Mike, who knows if he's happy? But at least he got his "Virgin". And what advice will I give my sons? "My dear boys, any woman who tells you she is a virgin, assume she's trying to manipulate you. Because whilst her virginity is good and is a sign of discipline towards God, you have NO idea of knowing if she's lying and even if she's not, that doesn't negate her other flaws. So shine your eye". So what exactly are you trying to say? That Mike is not happy in his marriage or what? Do you live with them? Did he complain to you and even if his family is complaining about the wife, is there a marriage today without ups and downs? Both of you were manipulators and the better manipulator CIC won and is now enjoying her marriage. You should move on. I just wasted my time reading rubbish. Mtchew 2 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Nnamdipapa(m): 6:10am On Aug 11 Virginity is just about a hole in-between, it means nothing in a relationship or marriage. A virgin can be violent or dumb as a rock. Trust me, it means very little. 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Fiscus105(m): 7:00am On Aug 11 advanceDNA: If u want a car previously used by 30 pple...go ahead.....if u can get a new one untouched ..go ahead .......But it's weird telling someone that a new & untouched car doesn't guarantee it will serve him well... It's funny how y'all focus on hypothetical scenarios of how virgins won't make good vvives or good marriages........but y'all never mention the fact that people with high bod¥count and reckless sexual lifestyle constitute the highest number of failed marriages out there........ Make una continue ...the society we encourage will come back and affect us Even the drug addicts, chronic womaniser, jobless mofo, all are fighting to get virgins. The one they disflowered, I guess they will leave it for their unborn children. I think you should advocate loud as well for your fellow guys to zip up before marriage, ....all these disvirging of a thing discussions would die a natural death. NB. The olosho in every hook-up site and ashewo in brothels , they are once virgin I know a virgin wife that forced her boyfriend then not to have sex until wedding night, in which less than 1 year into marriage, he has be sleeping with concubine. Not that one alone, she is a thorn in husband flesh, infact, she was having affair with the concubine, because she determined to revenge for hubby wrong doing. I know another virgin wife, after like 5 years into marriage, she was the one at throat of my friend, disturbing him to have immoral affairs with her. 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by advanceDNA: 7:48am On Aug 11 Fiscus105: Even the drug addicts, chronic womaniser, jobless mofo, all are fighting to get virgin. The one they disvirging, I guess they will leave it for children unborn. lol...funny guy... Are they spoons or plate ..?? They are human being who decided to have sex...no one is leaving them for anyone...and the mistake u are making is assuming everyman has disvirgined a woman.. Fiscus105: I think you should advocate loud for your fellow guys to zip up before marriage, ...all these disvirging of a thing discussion would die a natural death. advocate for people to stop having consensual sex?? Women determin if sex will happen....so a man's choice for a virgin or not shouldn't be the man's fault... Especially a man that has only over been in relationships with women 30 other women has slept with. Maybe u should advocate to your fellow women to stop spreading for everyman they meet on the road.. Fiscus105: NB. The olosho in every hook site and ashewo in brothels , they are once virgin They made their decision to spread their legs... Another person's choice for a virgin or a oloshó should naturally not be ur concern (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Fiscus105(m): 8:39am On Aug 11 advanceDNA: lol...funny guy... Are they spoons or plate ..?? They are human being who decided to have sex...no one is leaving them for anyone...and the mistake u are making is assuming everyman has disvirgined a woman.. advocate for people to stop having consensual sex?? Women determin if sex will happen....so a man's choice for a virgin or not shouldn't be the man's fault... Especially a man that has only over been in relationships with women 30 other women has slept with. Maybe u should advocate to your fellow women to stop spreading for everyman they meet on the road.. They made their decision to spread their legs... Another person's choice for a virgin or a oloshó should naturally not be ur concern So,you stop having heart attack on someone decisions, you are free to go for fellow guys and made him Ur partner in marriage, it doesn't start from you and it would end with you (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by advanceDNA: 8:46am On Aug 11 Fiscus105: So,you stop having heart attack on someone decisions, you are free to go for fellow guys and made him Ur partner in marriage, it doesn't start from you and it would end with you It doesn't start from me....it's start from the owner of the vag!na thats is angry because because some men don't want to marry a woman 30 other men has slept with... U can't be spreading legs for any man u meet and expect one innocent man interested in marriage that ddnt contribute to your body count , shouldn't care how many rods has passed through your legs 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by revived2: 8:00pm On Aug 12 If you want to go for bed to bed midfielder that's your own problem Pure in body ? Yes. New car over tokunbo Brand new Nord over danfo Chevron executive coaster bus over molue The choice is yours 3 Likes (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by DoTheNeedful: 8:01pm On Aug 12 This is a common statement promiscuous people make to make themselves comfortable in their immorality. I agree that marrying a woman solely because she is a virgin is misguided and myopic. However, the rate some ladies conduct their sexual life before marriage is frightful to the point that I think, only a loser of a man would make excuses for marrying them. Many of them have lost count of the number of men they have slept with. Today, when we talk about non-virgins, we are not just talking about a lady who just slept with 2 guys. We are talking about ladies who have ridden and svck multiple(perhaps tens of) cucumbers. Yet, some ignorant men defend them and marry them. We need to bring shame back. Many men today are also suffering from low self-esteem. You will see men deriving joy in walking around, or even down the aisle with half-naked ladies. The taste of men today is poor, compared to our fathers. Men today are marrying the type of women our forefathers took as concubines. Before you accuse me of being one-sided in my opinion, I believe men and women should live decently. However, women generally sleep around more than men. Before some men lose their virginities at 23, their female agemates had already sleep with ten men. As seemingly crazy America is, I read somewhere that around half men under thirty are virgin. Whereas, almost all women in the same brackets are non-virgins. Few men sleep with most women. As to how virginity may affect marriage: i. Non-virgin is an umbrella term today that covers anyone who has slept with one to hundreds of men. It is virtually impossible to have slept with multiple men/women, and still be okay psychologically from an emotional and marital standpoint. This could affect other aspects of the marriage which the lawyer's clients might not be talking about. ii. I personally attribute the high rate of paternity frauds we have today to promiscuous pasts. I know how easy it is to rekindle past flames with almost any woman, apart from the ones that block you on social media. Saying virginity can't affect marriage is an oversimplification. It does, albeit indirectly and subtly! It is just silly to marry a woman only because of virginity, and not consider other things. In fact, it is silly to consider only one attribute (e.g beauty, wealth e.t.c) to marry anyone. 2 Likes 1 Share (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by phr0nesis(m): 8:01pm On Aug 12 You are right but. The same way a new car doesn't guarantee safe travels, I'll always pick a new car over fairly used any time, any day 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by femi4: 8:01pm On Aug 12 Exactly, virginity doesn't transmit good character (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Iran2025: 8:01pm On Aug 12 Doing opio doesn't guarantee a successful marriage.. (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by PHIPEX(m): 8:01pm On Aug 12 Neither does promiscuity, let's stop debasing morality to feel good. First class certificate does not guarantee success, neither does 3rd class or pass 1 Like (Share⤴) Re: Virginity doesn't guarantee a Successful Marriage by Rich4god(m): 8:01pm On Aug 12 First class and 2.1 doesn't guarantee that you will get a job easily. But it will greatly push you ahead. Truly being a Virgin doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, but it will aid your chastity in marriage. That assertion that 99% of virgin aren't successful in marriage is highly fallacious. They are just trying to make the non virgin feel better. My dear sisters reading this... Maintain yourself till marriage. Sxx is overrated. Nothing special about sxx 3 Likes 1 Share (Share⤴)